I first see her sitting in my favorite chair on my patio. My Fireman found her and brought her to my house. The woman is slight and beautiful with translucent skin. Her bald head is covered with a flowered scarf that cascades down her back. Her hollowed, green eyes look up at me as she swivels back and forth, a nasal cannula trailing down her chest to an oxygen tank. The tubing swings like a pendulum with her every motion. Continue reading
Words. They have the power to demoralize or energize, humiliate or elevate, weaken or strengthen. Every day, each one of us, all beautifully made and wholly diverse awaken and make a choice for ourselves about how we’ll withstand inevitable suffering and rise to attain inner peace and healing.
Songwriter and musician Myles Travitz, who was named Raleigh NC’s 2011 Artist of Tomorrow for music, wrote the lyrics and music to the song, My Round. Myles then shared his words with members of our community. And an amazing thing happened.
Nineteen humans inspired by the song came forward and shared their deeply personal stories of hardship along with their fervent desire to triumph over prejudice, illness, racism, sexism, abandonment and so much more. The company I work for, Contrast Creative out of Cary, NC, wrote and produced each of the My Round stories in addition to the My Round music video.
For the next 20 days at noon, a new My Round story will be released.
My love, The Fireman, shared his story of his battle with lymphoma. His My Round video will be released on July 22nd.
On August 1, 2019, the #MyRound music video, featuring all 19 members of our community and shot in locations throughout the Raleigh/Durham North Carolina area, will be released.
In totality, the stories we are telling are the stories of all of us. Please consider sharing your #myround stories with us. We would love to hear from you!
“If you’re going through Hell, keep going.” Winston Churchill
The year I was getting a divorce I rear-ended two cars within an eight-day period. The first accident was the fault of a woman emotionally beaten down and overwhelmed by her new life circumstances (that would be me.) The second kerfluffle happened with the rental car in front of the collision center – as I was pulling in to pick up the car I’d wrecked the week before. Instead of calculating the distance it takes to stop when a light turns red, I had been mentally struggling with how to make ends meet. I couldn’t believe I had hit another fucking car. The police couldn’t either. Continue reading
I’ve spent the last few days preparing for Hurricane Florence and the toll it’s due to take on North Carolina. Lines are 30 cars deep at most gas stations and propane is a coveted, sought-after commodity. Grocery stores have become a gluttonous free-for-all with the masses planning for Armageddon. Friends and neighbors are communicating with fervor on Facebook about where they can find bottled water and Nextdoor is a resource for finding a generator to keep the lights on and the food fresh. Taking preventative measures is a beautiful thing. And, it got me thinking…
What if we took care of our relationships – our marriages – as if a storm is coming?What if at the first change in barometric pressure in our relationship we stopped what we were doing and took notice? What if we watched the weather with our significant other, paid attention to the signs and then actually did something about it? Continue reading
When my evening flight to visit my son was derailed, I knew there was only one thing that could ease the mortal wound Southwest had inflicted – a trip to TJ Maxx. Birthday gift cards were eating a hole in my wallet, clamoring for clothes that might show my waist a little grace. My closet mocked me each morning with outfits that were “so close” to fitting – but, “so close” doesn’t work when you can’t zip your pants and society demands you wear pants in public.
While I was scouring the racks for the next size up I began an internal dialogue, berating myself for everything I’d eaten and drank since last Christmas. I did the math on the gym membership that was rarely used since March. The thoughts came on as quickly and persistently as the extra holiday pounds had.
While I was in the dressing room with my allotted ten items, I heard a woman in the room across from me speaking harshly, in hushed tones to someone.
“This is never going to fit you. Just look at your stomach.”
A co-worker came into my office last week and asked what was up with my blog. Why wasn’t I writing? Talk about being caught with your fingers down. I took a deep breath and told him that I’d lost my voice over the summer. That I’d looked everywhere, but couldn’t find the words, the write path.
It was the perfect storm. Work had been overwhelming (always the easy out.) I moved into a new house and the boxes became my flimsy, cardboard reason swallowing the impulse to blog. Recovering from surgery, I became anesthetized with every excuse in the book I wasn’t writing. My computer was the dejected spouse that I repeatedly cheated on with friends, family, yard work and anything I could get my grubby hands on to stay away from keys that wouldn’t unlock the words. I let weeks and months slip away while my right brain languished. I gave zero fucks.
It took me a while to figure out why I wasn’t writing when the lightning had struck and the damage had been done. Continue reading
The announcement of an engagement is typically made with joy and verve. We don’t think about how to break the news or what people’s reactions will be. We shout about our nuptials from the rooftop and flash our shiny rings.
Announcing a divorce is a different beast. In the days that led up to my ex-husband and I telling people that our marriage was over, I spent a lot of time twisting my wedding ring in circles around on my finger. It became a habit, my subconscious “tell” of the turmoil going on in my life. Like a genie in a bottle, my anxiety hoped that if I rubbed the ring hard and long enough that my wish to be on the other side of all of this would come true. Continue reading
I had my third child, seven weeks early. There was no denying that three increasingly difficult pregnancies and pre-term labors meant that my birthing days were done. But, I always thought that someday I would adopt a child with special needs – an exceptional child that someone gave up on; a sweet soul who needed extra attention; a child deserving of extra love and support to make up for what was left out at birth or may have been lost along the way. What I didn’t realize was that, just like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz, I didn’t need to look any further for my heart’s desire than my own backyard. Continue reading
When my ex-husband and I were divorcing four years ago, my daughter’s only question was if her dad and I would both be at the hospital when she had a baby someday. She needed to know that in the midst of so much loss that the picture she had in her head of what that day would be like would never be taken from her. At the time, we assured her that we’d be anywhere she wanted us to be. That we were still family, that we would always be her parents.
The call came at 1:30 a.m. The phone didn’t have a chance to finish its first ring. I screamed, “She’s in labor, isn’t she?!” My son-in-law said, “She’s asking for you.” With a shaking hand, I put my keys in the ignition for the longest 4-hour drive of my life. Continue reading
When my daughter, Kayla, was five years old she was obsessed with Barbies. (Are Barbies even a thing anymore?) Pregnant with my first grand-daughter, I find myself thinking back to when she was a little girl.
“Mom, play Barbies with me. You can be anybody that you want to be.”